Lies People Tell Themselves: God can handle your anger, so it's ok to be angry with Him

"He can handle your panic, your fear, your anger, even your crisis of faith. Your exposed grief doesn't repulse him. Your questions don't intimidate him. Your humanity doesn't threaten him. In fact, it can be the very thing that keeps you tethered to him because it helps us to see our desperate need for him.

So when Carrie told CBS she was angry with God and it was broadcast for the world to see, she gave permission for others to be real with God, too. Ultimately we don't need "permission"—Jesus has already made a way for us to approach God as we are—but sometimes it helps to be issued an invitation to be our whole selves. In front of a worldwide audience Carrie did just that. Through being open about her experiences, she helped others to see that their grief experience is valid and that it doesn't have to be the undoing of their faith."

Except for one thing: anger at God is sin and blasphemy. It attacks the very nature of God Himself and it elevates man to a level of deserving something better. It attacks His good will towards those truly saved, and it attacks His justice towards those in rebellion against Him (while at the same time He's extending His mercy b/c he allows them to live and have many blessings anyway). It is to be unjust toward a just God. It is to judge The Judge and no man is in the position to DARE judge Him and HIS will.God is offended at anger towards Him, contrary to these women who say otherwise. It's not a matter of if He can "handle" it. It's a matter of charging sin against His nature. And sin does not "tether us" closer to Him. It gets in the way of fellowshipping with Him for the true Christian and it heaps on more wrath for those outside of Christ (the true Christian must and will repent of the sin of anger towards God). God doesn't ask you to sin against Him more by sanitizing it as "being real". What you need is to confess your sin of unrighteous anger against Him (there is no other kind of anger against Him--it's all wholly unjust) and fall before Him in humble submission to His good will and cry out to Him for forgiveness and help to correctly think through a tragedy. This is the biblical pattern in Scripture.
Jas 1:19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.